omeone who, if she wasn’t beautiful and charismatic enough to have a very lucrative career as an actress, could have seemed codependent though in fact she isn’t, is Elizabeth Taylor.  In her autobiography Elizabeth Takes Off, she writes about her first husband, “I pride myself about my intuitive nature about other people.  I usually can tell right off the bat whether someone is on the level or not, but in this situation I reacted like a typical teenager,” and he seemed so healthy that she married him, but while they were still on their honeymoon he “became sullen, angry, and abusive, physically and mentally” toward her.  “He began drinking.  He taunted me in public.  Then he shunned me.  I was bewildered and totally unequipped to handle this volatile situation.”  Yes, and I, also, could read people a lot better than most could, if I met that German teenager we probably could develop a great rapport, and he wouldn’t come across to me as abusive, either.

She wrote about her third husband Mike Todd, “He was the most energetic man I’ve ever known and he made our short eighteen months together one of the most intensely glorious times of my life.  We sure packed a lot of living and loving into less than two years.  Mike was a bit of a madman and, in his way, so was Richard Burton.  (I truly believe I can be content only with a man who’s a bit crazy.),” and by crazy she certainly doesn’t mean that she has a strange attraction to paranoia.  Her marriage to Mike ended with his death in a plane crash.

She also describes her attitude toward her own part in all her marriages and divorces, “I believe in taking life in both hands and squeezing the most out of it… I’ve always admitted that I’m ruled by my passions,” and that she wouldn’t give up any of the years of her marriage with Richard Burton, “Not a moment of the ecstatic roller-coaster years of our first marriage, nor of the ill-starred attempt at a second go-round…  I’ve always lived my life with too much relish to be a mere interpreter of dreams,” certainly not the type who’d have an affinity with paranoids.  She’s also certainly not the type who’d ask for trouble in her relationships with men, but without the clout that her great career has given her, being content only with a man who’s passionately crazy would mean that she’d look just as if she did consistently ask for trouble.  Without her high status and with her same taste in men, she’d seem to have a codependent intent, though in truth she wouldn’t to be trying to live a melodrama, a dope opera, or trying to be some guy’s martyr or caretaker or honky-tonk angel.

Here’s a picture of her that Alexander in Russia, a fan of hers, drew.              


You could see Joy Ikelman’s lists of living celebrities diagnosed as having bipolar or unipolar disorder, and lists of dead modern celebrities, and you might notice that some of the celebrities listed as unipolar actually have vivacious, hyperthymic, dispositions.  One of them is Rodney Dangerfield, who I’ve long appreciated for his avoidance of anything that even comes close to sexist or racist humor, though to some this could make him seem un-trendy.  Trendy means that if, hypothetically, someone made a modern version of the TV show This Is Y our Life, the guest of honor would be a racist skinhead, and the other guests would be all the people he’d ever beaten up.  Rodney has a web page with a guestbook-type program that allows people to send him e-mails that only he could read, and I sent him an e-mail saying that I have a hyperthymic personality and that it looks to me like he does too.  My next e-mail to him was to give him a section of the transcript of the penalty phase of Timothy McVeigh’s trial, where a witness showed the court a photo that Soldier of Fortune magazine printed, supposedly of ATF agents mooning the Branch Davidian’s compound as it burned.  (BTW, one of McVeigh’s co-workers once saw him getting angry about something minor by going hysterical for a few minutes and then suddenly acting like everything’s normal again, which the co-worker found memorably bewildering.)  The next time that I looked at Rodney’s website I saw he was selling a T-shirt, the first one I saw him sell, which had on it a joke about mooning, so I’d imagine that he’s free-thinking enough not to feel insulted and socially stigmatized by the former e-mail.

The power of lifesaving tenderness, which I go into on several other of my webpages,

would work just as well, or not-so-well, with high-status people, as it would with ordinary people.  In both cases, those who live lifestyles that at least fit the general pattern of “the Hollywood lifestyle,” would think that this is pro-freedom, even if it’s killing them, or, at the very least, making their own lives pretty empty.  If only they’d let others who truly care about them, persuade them to stop, that would make that big a difference in their lives.  Yet whether they’re ordinary or high-status, if you tried to persuade them, through sincere and dedicated tenderness, to stop the self-destruction, then that would make you a codependent, trying to play the rescuer role toward someone who refuses to be rescued, and keeps hurting you in the process.  Though high-status people might seem more proud and unreachable than are ordinary people, if, through tenderness, you tried to coax either to maintain their sobriety, both would probably be as likely to require the ordeals of codependent “rescue missions.”







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