any now blame themselves for consistently getting into romantic and other relationships with people with petty selfish tendencies.  Familiarity with the ebbs and tides of hyperthymic personalities would help a lot of these people stop blaming themselves.  From my own personal experiences, I’ve seen how someone attracted to the charismatic and intelligent qualities of hyperthymic personalities, might seem to have a subconscious codependent attraction to the often indefatigable behavior problems that hyperthymic people tend to have, since it would seem that this person is consistently attracted to impossible people of one sort or another.  On page 4 is a list of behavior problems that could come with hyperthymic personalities, and these, as well as the more ambiguous hyperthymic behavior problems such as an oblivious irresponsibility, a lack of a normal sense of give-and-take, etc., would include basically all of the behavior problems that could make the significant others of those with the problems, seem codependent.  Just try to imagine a diluted version of a manic episode, diluted enough that the behaviors are within the normal range but unusually intractable, just as chronic depression is a diluted version of a depressive episode, and you’ll get a good idea of what the ambiguous stuff looks like.  Since to many hyperthymics everyone else seems half dead, hyperthymics, especially, could seem to have an unusual penchant for hyperthymics and, therefore, for the problems that often come with them.  And there’s a big difference between that affinity and codependency.  If I were codependent I would have tried to save John by stepping right in there, becoming his girlfriend, and directly trying to win him over with my personability, instead of trying to save him by using scientific logic, telling Jim what I concluded, and then he’d go in there and directly try to win him over with his personability.

First off, let’s not forget that even real codependency, could be said to make some sense.  Real codependency is based on the same fact that Christian forgiveness is based on (so it’s not surprising that the bishops who forgave pedo-priests, qualify as enablers).  Both codependency, and much-beloved Christian forgiveness, are based on the fact that even if someone is destructive only part of the time, and/or his “real self” is decent but under the influence of his addiction he’s destructive, those who’d look at him on a very human level would see how decent his real self is.  Though books on codependency warn that the partners of those with addictions or behavior problems that are equally problematic, can’t “save” them, The Addiction Process, Effective Social Work Approaches, by Edith M. Freeman, gives several facts such as, “The Hazelden program in Minnesota has been routinely evaluated.  Discharged patients have maintained sobriety in 55 percent of cases followed for a period of one year.  The percentage increases to 80 percent for those with steady jobs, an intact family, and a home to return to.”  The real problem here is that whether or not a spouse’s dedication would work, including whether or not the recovering addict is laid off from work, would be a crap shoot.  Yet if this did work, what would be right, and rewarding, about that would be very profound.

When Chicago Cardinal Francis George, one of the bigger enablers of pedo-priests who’s also considered an intellectual leader in the American Catholic Church, was asked in a deposition about the letters he sent asking that Norbert Maday, a voracious predator sentenced for 20 years for raping two boys (and who now may be committed indefinitely as a violent sexual predator), be released from prison early, “Did it ever occur to you in 2002 what it would mean to the victims... if you had been successful in facilitating early release of this convicted offender?” George answered, “That fact that he would never function as a priest again was what most of the victims I spoke to were most concerned about, not whether he was in prison or not.”  George wrote to Maday in March, 2000, “Hopefully, some good souls will see that the six years of incarceration you have already endured are enough to satisfy the state and any sense of justice.”  Also, Wisconsin’s Catholic Governor Tommy Thompson, who recently was the U.S. Secretary of Health and Human Services, arranged for the body of Maday’s deceased mother to be brought into the prison where he was staying so that he could have a private viewing and funeral for her, and George thanked Thompson for this.

Not only is forgiveness a virtue, but, in practical terms, it really does make more sense not to treat people as if they’re the worst things that they do.  Yet, in practical terms, such a person can do a lot of damage.  And all that it takes for someone to qualify as a real codependent, would be patiently enduring big consequences caused by her partner, not enduring being on the receiving end of a malicious intent.  The same would go, to an even greater degree, for those who don’t have a sentimental attraction to those whose inconspicuous “real selves” are actually a lot better than the very vivid damage they cause, but are simply attracted to the dynamic side of their real selves.

Yet the basis of quite a bit of supposed codependency is that, quite literally, the same hyperthymic person could look and act like this most of the time:

 

but also look and act like this some of the time:

 

If you found the Phil Spector of the top photo attractive (Also, considering his career, you could hardly call him a loser.), and the Phil Spector of the bottom photo ended up causing you big problems, especially if you keep getting involved in plenty of ways with people who act like the top Phil Spector, you could very easily have a codependent attraction to people who act like the bottom Phil Spector.  After all, you keep getting involved in various ways with people who all “just happen to cause you the same sort of problem.”  It could seem that you must be subconsciously attracted to that sort of trouble.

The following description of a Medieval French poet, from Erich Auerbach, Romance Languages & Literature, sounds a lot like what such hyperthymics look like, both very attractive most of the time and very destructive  some of the time, to the point where their destructive side is extremely out-of-character with their alive side.  As you could see from the following, to say that such people are attractive most of the time, isn’t in the sense of romanticizing the troubled artist or being attracted to trouble, but in the sense of such people being very vibrant and soulful:

...François Villon, the greatest French lyric poet of the Middle Ages and one of the great lyric poets of all time.  (He was born in 1431, and disappeared without a trace in 1463.)  Villon was a Parisian.  He was reared by his uncle, a canon of the church of St. Benoit.  He studied and became a Master of Arts, but soon began to lead a disorderly life—the fate of many young men in this period of war and its sequelae, when the entire country was impoverished and disorganized, and had lost its moral equilibrium.  Villon was a hard drinker, a brawler, a thief, a whoremonger, and even a murderer.  Banished from Paris and wandering through the country, he was often imprisoned, put to torture, and was in great danger of being hanged on occasion.  Despite all this he kept his religious belief, displayed great candor even in perversion, and had an awareness of the human condition which was immediate and striking.  His subjects are simple: the concrete reality of his life, the sweetness and the vanity of earthly delights, the beauty and inevitable putrefaction of the human body, the corruption and hope of the soul.  Simple subjects, but fundamental and always conceived in terms of antithesis. He is the first poet who is purely a poet—whose entire merit consists in the spontaneity with which the movements of his soul are expressed.  At once extremely realistic and naturally lyrical, his most beautiful poetry is immediately understandable and works its charm even on readers who have no special background in medieval poetry.  To be sure, there are other poems which are difficult to understand because of their linguistic form and allusions to obscure contemporary figures and events.  In his very personal way of expressing his own individuality, Villon seems to announce the Renaissance, but in his ideas and the form of his poems he belongs to the French Middle Ages, of which he was the last great figure.
 

Sure, Abe Lincoln said to a sobriety group in 1842, “I believe if we take habitual drunkards as a class, their heads and their hearts will bear an advantageous comparison with those of any other class.  There seems ever to have been proneness in the brilliant and warm-blooded to fall into this vice.  The demon of intemperance ever seems to have delighted in sucking the blood of genius and generosity.”  If a woman said something like that, she’d certainly seem codependent.  Yet it seems very understandable that Lincoln said that, especially since he had some severe depressive episodes himself.

Al-Anon’s original handbook, The Al-Anon Family Groups, actually includes the following:

Alcoholics are likely to be persons of intense, if brief, enthusiasms.  They have a tendency to try to do too much too fast.  They are apt to demand perfection in themselves and in others, too.  When frustrated, they are likely to be over-depressed or over-aggressive.  Hence, they often lack the emotional stability to face life’s problems in a realistic manner.

Alcoholics are generally most attractive and intelligent people.  They may hold very high ideals, which they seem unable to practice in daily living.  Their attractive qualities account for the fact that so many non-alcoholics choose them as life partners.

That’s basically a description of hyperthymic personalities!  We Heard the Angels of Madness, One Family’s Struggle with Manic Depression, by Diane and Lisa Berger says, in its section on cyclothymia, “Someone with this disorder may be moody, irritable, antisocial, unstable, impulsive, and volatile.  The cyclothymic sometimes abuses drugs or alcohol.  He may have marital problems or be promiscuous; start projects or jobs that he never finishes; change jobs or homes constantly; argue loudly, then feel very contrite; swing between feeling inferior and feeling grandiose and superior; or go on spending sprees.”

Ironically, from Al-Anon, as our culture became more oriented toward self-reliant self-responsibility, came the idea of codependency, that the women who are attracted to such unstable men could take hope in the belief that if only they’d stop subconsciously “letting themselves in for trouble” with problem men, these women could solve their own problems.  Since AA founder Bill Wilson was a stockbroker, and the Big Book was written during the Great Depression, AA-style self-help is basically a stockbroker lecturing those living in the Great Depression that they should just take response-ability for their own welfare, and stop whining.  One could say that the fix is in, not in the sense that a conspiracy put the fix in, but in the sense that our untermensch-bashing cultural norms did, so it’s predictable that if you’re the one with the problem, you’d be held response-able for “empowering yourself,” “taking care of yourself,” etc., by solving it.

 

 

What hyperthymics often look like, is your favorite sort of übermenschen.  To liberals, this means hip free spirits, who preach hip ethos.  To conservatives, this means free spirits who are against guv’mint, and similar, restrictions.  Of course, both of these sorts of übermenschen can cause a lot of problems.  Yet those who object, those hurt by the problems who don’t just shut up and take response-ability for their own welfare, etc., could be painted as untermenschen.  To liberals, this would mean that they’d seem to be square and restrictive, to be trying to “trap” those free spirits into committed romantic relationships or marriages, etc.  To conservatives, this would mean that the untermenschen would be resentful and/or manipulative whiners.  Either way, the people who caused the problems would seem at least understandable since their dynamism and originality seem so attractive, while the untermenschen hurt by them would seem to be using their own weakness for “fun” and/or profit.  It would be very easy to see those hurt by the übermenschen, as having had chosen their own weakness for “fun” such as codependency, which is exactly the sort of surreptitiously willful, weakness-milking, headgame that you’d expect untermenschen to play.

 

 

Hyperthymic Personality Disorder looks something like the affected people being under the influence of stimulants that have the same disinhibiting effects as booze.  Such people would likely act sociopathic when that’s what they feel like doing, but act caring when that’s what they feel like doing.  Relationships with people like this could very easily look codependent, since they could be called both attractive and troublesome.  When the good and bad qualities are in the context of a romantic relationship, they could seem to have the quality of the aggressive person manipulating the victim into trusting him.  One example of what this looks like outside of a romantic relationship, is the case of James N. Egan, the lawyer who worked pro bono for the family of Kevin Hunt, one of the many victims of Dr. George Reardon, the head endocrinologist of Connecticut’s biggest Catholic hospital, St. Francis, who used his trusted position to take thousands of kiddie porn pictures, which were recently discovered.  Since Hunt writes for the Hartford Courant, he told his story in the Courant.  He wrote that though Egan, who was an alcoholic, did plenty of charitable things, he died from suicide hours before he “was to appear in probate court to answer charges that he misappropriated about $300,000 from estates and clients’ funds.”  One could legitimately say that there was really no way of knowing which of these was “his real self,” his “good” side, or his “bad” side.  And since none of that happened in a romantic relationship or marriage, one could say this without seeming irrationally sentimental.  While alcoholism might make this split personality look a lot more artificial than are the split personalities caused by HPD, it doesn’t involve much real choice either.

In Eric Clapton’s autobiography, he wrote that when he first went to Hazelden his wife Pattie went to a program for addicts’ family members.  “It also encouraged them to look at their own role in the family structure, to see whether there would be a possible need for them to get help as well.  It has become generally accepted in these matters that no one holds a gun to the head of a person involved with an alcoholic.  They are almost invariably there for their own reasons, and in many cases this is because they are addicted themselves, even if it’s only in a caretaking fashion....   I think she felt she had been acting as a surrogate mother most of her life, starting with her siblings, and continuing the role in her relationships.  In her life with me, I think she yearned for an independent identity, but was rarely allowed to account for herself because I was always the focus of attention.”

This is the very same Pattie to whom Eric wrote Layla and other, similar, songs.  Frankly, if she’s attracted to that, that’s hardly a sign that she’s attracted to playing a caretaking role, especially since, much of the time, he’s pretty sensitive!  My own experiences with intense people have taught me that they could be very intensely FOR YOU now, but just as intensely SELF-CENTERED AT YOUR EXPENSE later.

 

She seems to have gotten the same impression, in that the book says, “...I think she was deeply touched by the fact that I had written all these songs about her, but at the same time the intensity of it all probably scared the living daylights out of her.”  No doubt plenty of the women who heard those songs wished that they were the ones who he was so attracted to, which would make them seem more attracted to trouble than she would.

At the same time, both an attraction to that, and a trust of that, really doesn’t indicate an attraction to trouble, especially since he had to woo her for years before she finally partnered up with him, she yearned for an independent identity, and, though she showed a natural amount of compassion regarding the ways in which his alcoholism was hurting him, it didn’t take long before it drove her away from him.  This is something like the fact that the 1965 “The Wife-Beater’s Wife” study that Ann Jones wrote of in Next Time She’ll Be Dead, studied some battered wives located by contacting women who’d turned their husbands in to the cops for domestic violence, yet the study concluded that these women have a tendency to be in violent marriages for their own masochistic reasons!  But, as Jones wrote, “Without the wife-beater’s wife there would be no wife beating.”  Correcting the victims is the most likely to succeed, since the victims are always the ones who have the most reliable motivation to solve the problems.

If everyone abided by one of Hazelden’s favorite credos, “God, grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.  Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace; Taking as Jesus did this sinful world as it is not as I would have it; Trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to Your will; So that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with You forever in the next—Amen,” those who’d solve the problems would do so with plenty of self-motivation and self-empowerment.  A school of psychology that has that conception of personal responsibility would naturally tend to blame and correct the victims.  The more that one would blame the victims, the more optimistic he’d be that they could change what they must to solve their own problems.

 

 

And, ironically, Eric’s autobiography says that their wedding included a reading of I Corinthians 13, which includes “Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;  it is not arrogant or rude.  Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;  it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.   Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”  Though Paul wrote that, it certainly reflects how Jesus took this sinful world.  And, like the Serenity Prayer, those expectations would mean one thing if the person is expected to deal with people’s inevitable imperfections, and another if she’s expected to deal with excessive behavior.  All that you’ve got to do is apply that to a marriage with someone who has an addiction or addictive personality, and you’d have a codependent marriage.

Yet the fact would still remain that the possibility of coaxing an addict into getting sober, is very attractive.  Sure, centuries of practical experience as well as modern scientific measurements, have shown that no matter how much of an impression that one might make on an addict’s mind, his drug-addled brain could still cause him to crave drugs, delude himself into thinking that he could safely use again, etc.  Psychologists who’d get enough training that they could counsel all sorts of people, would have to learn both how much more likely an addict is to remain sober if he got plenty of opportunities support and understanding, and how much non-addicts would be putting themselves at risk if they gave opportunities and support to people who are in such need of understanding.

The whole idea of codependency is that desires to make such a difference in problem men’s lives would only lead to misery since they refuse to stop causing problems though they don’t really benefit themselves.  In the end, one really would have to wonder how much less likely an addict would be to relapse, if his conception of “personal responsibility” didn’t assume that each person is largely response-able for his own problems.  If he believed in, say, the very secular ethical system of Situation Ethics, which cares about the practical consequences of one’s destructive actions rather than what any holy book declares about them, then he’d be less likely to think and act as if his own destructive behavior didn’t really have consequences.  If that were the case, then codependents’ belief that their own tenderness could turn the addicts around, really wouldn’t be irrational!  all that these codependents would want is to stop some pretty self-destructive, sometimes lethal, behavior.

 

 

Considering what’s at stake, one certainly wouldn’t have to be codependent to care a lot about this.  Renaissance poet John Donne wrote, “Any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls, it tolls for thee.”  Then you could add to this at the other harm that addiction does to people’s lives, that didn’t have to happen.  As Henry Fielding wrote, “It is not death, but dying which is terrible,” and at any given moment plenty of those with drug and/or booze problems are dying, maybe very slowly from AIDS or hepatitis.

 

 

The only reason why attempts to help addicts seems codependent, is that even recovering addicts are so likely to act as Karl Menninger’s Man Against Himself, from 1938,

 

saw a good deal of people’s destructive behavior, as subconsciously wanting both to act out one’s own impulses, and to be punished for this, maybe through serious injury or death!

One’s wildest dreams would be that since addiction depends so much on choices made at different time, the addicts whose lives would be in danger don’t really have to die.  “Rescuing” them isn’t the problem, only the problems that the addiction would cause, and that the addicts’ partners would seem to have let themselves in for it.

 

 

Most of this webpage is about how often books about pedophiles, refer to how attractive are the personalities of most of them, or certain pedophiles in particular.  Since child molesters are both predators and freaks, the theory of codependency would have to figure that anyone who’d find them attractive is likely attracted to trouble.  Yet those who describe those pedophiles as having attractive personalities, never seem squeamish about finding them attractive.  Child Molesters: A Behavioral Analysis For Law-Enforcement Officers Investigating the Sexual Exploitation of Children by Acquaintance Molesters, by Kenneth V. Lanning, says about pedophiles as versus those who molest minors to satisfy aggressive desires, “Although they can be unintelligent and poor, they tend to be more intelligent and more likely from higher socioeconomic groups,” exactly what hyperthymics tend to be.

Paul Kellen, executive secretary of People of Conscience United for the Protection of Children, said, “Predators are the most charming and charismatic men and so their unmasking is often understandably greeted by disbelief in the community.”  Betrayal, the Crisis in the Catholic Church, by the investigative staff of the Boston Globe, quotes Tom Blanchette, molested by Fr. Joseph Birmingham, who also molested Paul Cultrera of Hand of God fame, as saying, “He was gregarious, articulate.  Very outgoing.  He would always greet people with a booming,  ‘Hi! How are ya?’  And by then, I had been having sex with this guy for two years—three or four times a week at that point.   If a teacher’s a pedophile, he’s the best teacher.  If a Little League coach is a pedophile, he’s the best coach.  If a Boy Scout leader is a pedophile, he’s the best troop leader.  And that’s how it was with Father Birmingham.”  Sacrilege, Sexual Abuse In the Catholic Church, by Leon Podles, says, “Hickey had a great interest in youth and was considered ‘charismatic,’ as offenders often are.”

The article Driven from the Flock, by Janet Patterson, includes,

As we share our stories, many common threads emerge.  The priest was charismatic, dynamic, and loved by the parish.  Upon his removal, even when he would plead guilty, many parishioners and fellow priests would rally around him by denying his guilt, sending cards and letters of support, and failing to give moral support to the victim and his/her family.  Their minds cannot reconcile the public view of the priest with the private view of his abusive behavior.

This is the notoriously sociopathic pedo-priest Paul Shanley, who, in his hippie days, certainly didn’t look notoriously sociopathic.

Voracious Milwaukee pedo-priest Lawrence Murphy admitted to molesting at least 30 deaf kids at a Catholic boarding school for the deaf, but former students of the school estimated his victims at more than 100.  In 1973, one of his victims turned him in to the police.  The report went to the archdiocese instead of Murphy being prosecuted, and he told the Archbishop that the victim was “retarded.”  The next year, some two dozen affidavits were submitted to Cousins by victims and family members of the school, testifying that Murphy had sexually molested them.  More police reports were also filed.  Instead of removing Murphy from the school, the Archbishop told a meeting of student victims and school officials that Murphy, a major fundraiser for the archdiocese, was “too valuable” to dismiss from his post.  Murphy not only molested plenty of kids, but also tried to evade responsibility by mercilessly making one of his victims look bad, yet his personality was attractive enough that he could raise a lot of money?  A Milwaukee Journal Sentinel article, Shared Secrets Reveal Much Suffering in Silence, by Mary Zahn, says, “At the center of the building frenzy was Murphy, a gregarious Irishman, short in stature with a smile that could melt ice.”

On August 4, 2000, Iowa’s Quad-City Times ran an article, From Saving Souls to Saving Lives, about retired Fr. James M. Janssen (whom the article calls, “James ‘Jay’ Janssen”), who was at that time 78 years old, and already had a big history as a particularly voracious aggressive and sociopathic pedo-priest, beginning in 1953, including in 1956 being caught “in the handball court [of the YMCA] with two boys in a very improper activity.”  The article is about his becoming possibly the world’s oldest lifeguard.  This article says, “He loves the old rock and roll stars such as Chuck Berry and Jerry Lee Lewis because they have a fervent beat.  The music helps him and his water aerobics class get into a spirited mood to tighten and tone their bodies.  It’s 8 a.m., and Janssen is full of energy already.  That might be difficult for many people his age....  ‘He’s a scream to be around,’ says DeEtta Montgomery of Davenport....  Karl Basler, interim aquatic director at the Y, enjoys working with Janssen.  ‘He gets along with everybody.  He is incredibly caring.  He may forget your name, but he always recognizes people.’”

 

This is “Jay” Janssen.  He does look like he’d be “a scream to be around”!

 

Of course, if a woman said that she found any pedophile who was also attracted to women, attractive, she’d seem to have a strange masochistic attraction to predatorial creeps.  Of course, if she denied that he acted at all guilty before he was caught molesting, then people would insist that subconsciously she was able to sense that he’s a perv, and that if she denies this, then she’s in denial.  Just imagine how most people would react to any other claims that you did something because you had subconscious desires for what turned out to be the outcome, and that if you disagree with this, you’re in denial.  That premise seems acceptable only when it preaches victim-blaming.

The design of this pendant, based on sinuous curves, could seem very attractive.  It could seem that the person who designed it, could have an attractive personality.  This pendant is a logo for pedophiles attracted to girls, sold by a company that produces jewelry of logos for both pedophiles attracted to girls, and those attracted to boys.  Those in the bipolar spectrum are unusually likely to have any of the sexual perversions, including pedophilia.  The webpage selling this, describes it in a way that sounds like a beneficent version of both sadism and self-satisfaction, “A magnificent jewel with forms, both gentle and strong, that can express the intensity and the deepness of a feeling as well as the balance and the harmony of a relation.  The open line formed by the two hearts represent duration and liberty, a link that holds and sustains without attaching.”  As far as that’s concerned, the “strong” form encircling the “gentle” one is protective, so the greater power of the man over the little girl doesn’t really seem malicious.  Likewise, the freedom from “attaching” seems to be pro- “liberty,” so if he maintains this relationship only as long as she remains underage enough, it could seem that he’s just preserving his sacred liberty.  Such a person could defend his own character, in that he’s probably not going to cause harm with a cynical or spiteful intent.  The same would go for those who don’t violate others’ rights as much as pedophiles do, such as the proverbial commitment-phobic men, who also can do a lot of damage in defending their “liberty” from being “attached” (and, probably, decide for themselves how much limited commitment constitutes a good “balance” between “sustaining” and “attaching”) yet they, also, don’t see themselves as having a cynical or spiteful intent.  The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines malice as “desire to cause injury or distress to another,” and even molesters who aren’t overtly sadistic, don’t desire to cause injury or distress.  Self-justification always works like magic.

The biggest scourge of the Tucson Diocese, former pedo-priest Robert Trupia. who was so predatorial that anti-pedo-priest activist Fr. Thomas Doyle called him, “a totally dishonest, probably sociopathic individual,” and, “This guy is one of the worst cases I’ve ever worked on,” yet Trupia looked very charismatic, not like the stereotypical pedophile:

The book about the pedo-priest scandal, by the investigative staff of the Boston Globe, Betrayal, describes Paul Shanley as having both a “charisma,” and, “an arrogance that defined his persona.”  In the 1960s, he was known as the “hippie priest.”  Another book about the perv-priests, David France’s Our Fathers, says that Joseph Birmingham, the perv who abused Paul Cultrera of Hand of God fame, was so indiscriminately predatorial that Birmingham was glaringly “pathological,” yet, when telling of when Cardinal Bernard Law saw representatives of six of Birmingham’s victims who killed themselves, “How could a man who appeared genial to his peers be for others a memory so dark they’d rather die?”

Joseph Birmingham, from a Catholic Youth Organization photo in which the boys tended to look disturbed, and the girls all looked like they felt normally.

Another book about a scandal, this one concerning pedophile monks, Michael Harris’ Unholy Orders: Tragedy at Mount Cashel, a Newfoundland orphanage that in the 1970s had several of the monks who worked there abuse the boys who stayed there, says about Gilbert Gauthé, the first pedo-priest to be imprisoned in the US, “As it turned out, little boys weren’t the only people he could manipulate—a trait common to most pedophiles.”  Yet when the hierarchy members whom the pervs manipulated are said to have “enabled” them, this never implies that the hierarchy got codependent thrills by allowing the pervs to manipulate them, like the wives who love to take care of their addicted husbands   .  And rather than being charismatic, Gauthé is rather childish!

Not only that, pervs could even have some positive qualities!  Mother Teresa’s spiritual advisor, Fr. Donald McGuire, was convicted of having had molested two boys in the 1960s.  He was recently sued by a young man who began living with him in 1999, wherein he kept molesting the boy, until 2003, when another former victim sued him.  Mother Teresa has shown tendencies to follow dogma, so maybe this is why she could follow a perv just as readily as she’d follow a non-predator.  Yet it could very likely be that he’s inspirational in some areas of his life, predatorial in others.  Therefore, you couldn’t really say that anyone who’d follow him, including Mother Teresa, must have codependent thrill-seeking attractions to predators!  Though many regarded him as a great moral leader, the father of two of his victims wrote about how evil he really is.  Sure, she’ll likely become a saint, and seems very folksy and sincere, but her mentor got that letter, which begins, “Congratulations!  You have successfully accomplished much of the work of your spiritual mentor, Lucifer.  For at least 40 of your 46 years of Satan inspired priesthood you have ruined the lives of countless of young boys and their family’s with your forced pedophilia.”


 

 


 
 

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